Hocus, Pocus, it’s all about focus. That’s the real magic of goals!

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‘Once set, the final thing to do is to make our goals visible. Put our written down goals where we will see them everyday. Look at them often and surely success will follow, as day follows night.’

The above success principle has been praised by just about all those who have applied it. Those who do not apply it usually get left in the dust, goal-less. There are some who are able to bypass this principle and still enjoy great succcess, but they are few and far in between.

In my experience with goal setting, past and present, I find that in addition to writing them out, pictures of my goals and associated items, help me to visualize actually having them, just as if they are in a layaway catalogue, all I have to do is pay the price to pick them up. This allows me to think that it is just a matter of time until they arrive! This really helps to allay any negative vibes that may crop up during the adventure.

At the time, I was rarely successful at staying consistent and focusing steady on anything important. I mostly just played at life. I knew all the rules of success but was haphazard at applying them, no consistency. This does plague me from time to time.

That is until I got serious . . . 1987. That year I quit smoking, quit drinking, and quit being lazy! I dropped 60 lbs. in 3 months, and worked up to running 5 miles a day. I experienced the power of Focus! I wrote an article about how I made that happen. I called it, Set Your Mind To Win and you can read it at: http://www.realgoalgetter.com/articles/smith/set-your-mind.html . In it I explained some of what I did to achieve those goals. This article actually follows up on that one, with a little more detail, and in a different way.

That next year, 1988, I made a decision to take my wife to Hawaii. I remember it was a vacation trip though that I really wanted for my wife and I. It was her dream trip to Hawaii, she had never been there. So we planned two weeks in October that year. It all seems so long ago, actually it was. At the time of this writing it is 2004.

Back then, I didn’t have any of the the resources that I needed to take this trip, and I didn’t know how I was going to do it. I was flat broke. But I did know that I wanted it for my wife and I. This was a tremendous amount of cash for me to come up with in so short a time. For me this was nigh impossible! There were no past references in me to even think this was possible. I didn’t even have a savings account at the time.

Being in Sales and Supervision at the time, one of the procedures to make it easy for people to buy was to break down the necessary actions, payments etc. to the ridiculously simple, so they would believe it was not only possible but absolutely doable! I brainstormed all the things we wanted to have and do on our trip, all that it would cost, and totalled it up. I would need at least $8,000.00 in order to make it happen. I needed to break this down into timelines.

I pushed the negative self talk aside every time it came up. (And it came up often, believe me) I came up with ideas I needed to act on and I started to break them down into 5 smaller actions, and then into 5 smaller actions until I came up with a ridulously simple thing, that I could believe I could do and that I could do right there and then, and just waded into them one at a time.

I booked the trip in May, without having all my ducks in a row, heh, heh. I booked the time off at work and having told all my colleagues what I had planned, I couldn’t back out. Talk about a public commitment, and a commitment to my wife is not easily broken, so I pulled out all the stops to make this trip happen. I tightened my belt on a lot of things that I didn’t need and also worked my tail off to earn extra income so I could save some for the trip. I lived and breathed that trip every day.

I surrounded myself in my car, house, and office, with post cards, pictures, magazine articles, travel books, videos, sun tan lotion, even a fake grass skirt that I picked up in a yard sale and hung around my bathroom mirror.

I made an audio recording and listened to my own voice on tape of how I was making things happen, and I visualized (imagined) how successful I was at taking each of the actions necessary. I set out my intention. (Positive Self Talk in my car) This was weird stuff, believe me I felt weird at the beginning.

I talked about it all the time. It served it’s purpose though and kept my focus strong, and concentrated my power! I never let myself forget for a moment that I wanted this Hawaii trip badly, and that I was on the hook for this. I kept reminding myself in every way possible that this trip was important, I mean, almost life or death important.

Well, I made that trip happen just the way I wanted it, and my wife was ecstatic. One week on Oahu, and one week on Maui. We took 33 rolls of film in two weeks, a visual reminder of the fun and good times we had. My wife had her dream trip, and I had a real life reference that would change how I went after my goals forever.

Making this trip happen really made it clear to me that goal setting really works big time, as long as you keep your eye on the ball. Since then, I work on my goals regularly, always keeping them in mind. I have a dream collage of pictures framed on my wall, and I have a long list of ‘wishes’ that I have yet to take action on. I just have to pump up the volume from time to time.

I am not perfect by any stretch but I keep at it. After I met this challenge, I sure haven’t got any excuse for not having or doing something.The best reward I got from that experience was the feeling that I could achieve basically anything providing I stoked my desire high enough, and managed my thoughts and focus.

When you have one gargantuan goal, that by going after it, you automatically achieve all of your others, this helps to keep your focus concentrated, and your energy does not get dissipated by going in a lot of different directions. Just like Napoleon Hill writes about how powerful a ‘Magnificent Obsession’ can be.

Please do not take this as ‘bragging’ as my intention is only to demonstrate that anyone can do, have, or be whatever they want as long as you pay the price asked. Who in their right mind would brag about a small amount like $8,000.00 anyway in this day and age?

Let’s see some of the focus activities I used in doing this:

1. Write down my goal and review it frequently. Immerse myself in it.

2. Surround myself with associate items, pictures, smells, feels, and/or tastes.

3. Think as if it’s on layaway, it’s in the bank, and confidently pay the price.

4. Create future references by visualizing you have received them already.

5. Talk about them all the time, and record my own enthusiastic voice to listen to.

6. Control my focus by crowding out the negative, overwhelming it with positive.

7. Break down my actions to the ridiculously simple, be specific.

8. Commited to myself, my wife, and everyone I cared about. (built up importance)

9. Set my mind to ‘win’, there is no other option to consider.

10. Have faith that this will happen, use the peak to peek principle.

One focus to success. Build momentum in all things instead of distraction. It is all about focus. You can make this work for you too. The real question to ask yourself is this:

How can I take these 10 ‘focus’ strategies, use them as a ckecklist of sorts, apply them to my most important goal, make them work for me, and enjoy the process?

Well, how can you? And will you? You Can Do It!

Go for it!


3 Simple Keys to Getting Rid of Fear

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Fear is your enemy ñ no other way to describe it. Iím not talking about that natural life preserving action along with a major boost of adrenalin that happens if a wild animal is coming at you. Iím talking about the fears people live with day in and day out.

Fear is your enemy. Someone once described fear as, ìSand in the machinery of life.î Fear doesnít help you, it hinders you. Fear doesnít get you through an open door; it keeps you in the hallway. Fear never helps you put your best foot forward; it just keeps both of your feet in cement.

The psychology of today is, ìLearn to live with your fearsî, ìEmbrace your fearsî, ìItís normal to have fears ñ everybody does.î

Itís true; lots of people do have fears. And there are people who are trying to learn how to live with their fears, and embrace them.

But if itís ìnormalî to have fears, then why would the Bible talk about being delivered from all your fears?

Think about it – if itís normal to have fears, and you had no fears, then you would be abnormal, right? Well why would God want you to be abnormal?

He doesnít. He truly desires for you to be set free from all your fears.

There are many facets and aspects of fear. One of the big ones is having fear of what others think of you. People do things, say things, and even buy things because of the fear that they have of what others think.

Many times people join clubs or organizations because they are afraid that if they donít, others might think badly of them.

People say things and talk a certain way because they are afraid that they might not say the right thing in front of the right people.

People purchase items because of fear not measuring up to those around them. And on and on it goes.

You donít have to live with fear. Here are 3 simple keys to getting rid of fear.

First, start by realizing that God truly loves you and that His love for you is unconditional. The Bible teaches that nothing can separate you from His love. Nothing. His love for you does not change, ever!

Second, ask God to help you to get rid of all your fears. He has promised to deliver you from all your fears. That is His desire for you ñ a life without fear.

Third, make decisions based on what is best for you, not how it may or may not appear to others. Youíll never, ever be able to please everyone, so stop trying to. Youíll never, ever be right in everybodyís eyes, so stop trying to.

When you make a decision, ask yourself, ìWhy am I making this decision? Is it based on fear?î Make decisions based on what is right and best for your life, regardless of what others think.

You can live without fear.


Law of Attraction Classics: Dynamic Thought – Visualizing Exercise

The Law of Attraction

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Make denials and affirmations to suit your particular needs. Whatever you desire to do, affirm beforehand that you can do it, and that you will do it when the time for doing comes. Whatever disagreeable or difficult duty lies before you, deny failure, and affirm beforehand that you can and will do it, that already in your Mental World it is accomplished; then visualize yourself doing the thing calmly and without effort. Mentally see yourself dealing with a difficult or unpleasant matter, with calm dignity and ease. When the time for action arrives you will succeed.

Concentrate your whole attention upon the meditations. If you find your thoughts wandering through lack of concentrative power make use of the following denial and affirmation. First of all cleanse the mind by the denial of evil and calm and strengthen it by the affirmation of good. You have by so doing raised yourself into your perfect Mental World, breathing the pure air of perfect mental freedom. Now say, “Mind wandering cannot affect me. I am a perfect MIND, part of the great Universal Mind that is everywhere and works in and through everything. Therefore my mental powers are perfect. It was a mistake that made me think I could not concentrate; it was simply a delusion of the physical senses. Now I know that this could never be, because I am a perfect Mind gifted with God-like powers.” Now affirm as follows: “Now I know that I can concentrate on any subject I please. My potential powers are infinite, I have only to develop them, I have only to ‘try’ and I must succeed.” Working in this way you will develop tremendous powers of Concentration.

I send out my thoughts to all mankind and say: “Dear everybody, I love you.” Like the beams of a searchlight my mental vision sweeps over all the continents and islands of the world, and visualizes all peoples, sending out to them a great beam of Love and Blessedness. Then it takes in all sky and sun and earth and sea, and the sweet breath of heaven. It embraces all animals and flowers and loveliness, it sweeps through a thousand sunsets and a million dew-washed fragrant dawns back to the one Source of all life–again affirming, “I love you, I love you.” Then into my heart flows a great wave of divinest peace, a great inrush of the accumulated love-force of the invisible Universe, I become submerged in a sea of Infinite Blessedness. Thus in blessing others do I help to make the world a little better, and in return I am doubly blessed.

For this week’s visualizing exercise take six small articles and examine them very carefully one at a time. For instance, if one article is a lead pencil, look at it and see in what respects it differs from other lead pencils. You notice its color; its shape, either round, hexagon or oval; its point, well sharpened or otherwise; the maker’s name and trade-mark; what kind of lead, either BB, B or JIB; the name of the pencil itself; its condition, scratches on the surface of the polish; all these and many other points should be minutely noticed. Examine each article in turn and just as minutely. When you have examined them all, shut your eyes and visualize each article, and see every point and peculiarity in your mind’s eye, just as you did with your physical sight. Change the articles for new ones from day to day.

If you lack knowledge of a certain subject and desire to gain this knowledge, then tell your subliminal mind what it is that you require; it will then either supply direct the knowledge that you need or bring to your notice the very book or course of lessons that you require. Also in solving your problems your subliminal mind may bring a sentence to your notice, which, directly you read it, tells you that it is the answer to your riddle. The more you can quieten the senses and the objective mind and rely upon your subliminal mind the greater will be your wisdom and understanding.

In the letter I have sent you this week I speak of visualizing and affirming the success that you desire to demonstrate, fn the same way hold the picture of perfect health ever before your mind. Let it be a constant inspiration and source of radiant joy.


How To Unleash All Your Leadership Potential

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Leadership is a highly unique form of human behavior that requires the integration of character, knowledge and experience. So what can you do if you step up and unleash your leadership potential? Change the world.

Your journey to unleashing your leadership potential begins with a great understanding of self. Discover your personality traits and how they relate to leadership. When we know ourselves, we can maximize our positive traits, and become aware of our weaker areas, which help us to achieve our leadership potential. Once you understand and know yourself, next you must hone your communication skills. These are not limited to your public speaking skills either. This includes your writing style and your body language. Your ability to communicate effectively enhances your ability to improve interpersonal relationships. Another important skill is to learn how to learn. Examine different teaching methods and learning styles to identify how you and those you may lead learn best. This skill will greatly enhance your ability to make decisions and give clear instructions.

An Exceptional Leader is one that recognizes the value of harnessing the skills and abilities of team members and leads them toward greater efficiency and effectiveness.

…And so leader is not a title and leadership is not something you are born into. Leadership is something you develop.

This is what Dr. Ken Blanchard, in his book “The Heart of A Leader” had to say about good leaders; “If you want to know why your people are not performing well, step up to the mirror and take a peek.


“Secrets of a Positive Attitude”

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Are you constantly bombarded by thoughts of negativity? Plagued by feelings of insecurity? Do you see everything in a negative manner? The reason for this lies deep within your heart. You are what you mentally and spiritually eat. If a person drinks alchohol on a daily basis, odds are their body will be affected in some way. They may have liver issues, develop cancer or incur some other type of health problem directly related to the amount of alcohol they have consumed. In the same way, a person who constantly feeds themselves negative thoughts will simply turn into a negative person.

This is the time to go on a diet. A diet of positive attitude food. You have to literally stop feeding your mind negative things. Ask yourself is this thought negative or positive or negative? What do negative thoughts look like? Well, they start with can’t rather than can, no as opposed to yes, will and not won’t. The Bible which is the greatest self help book ever written, speaks about taking every thought captive. The problem in our society has become that our thoughts have taken us captive. We have begun to let our thoughts control us.

A great way to know what we are negative about is to ask those people who are closest to us. You can ask your spouse
or another person in your life who really knows you how they would rate your attitude on a scale of 1 to 10. 10 being super positive and 1 super negative. Ask this person to be totally honest with you. You will benefit from their honesty even if it causes you pain. Ask this person what it is that you specifically say that they perceive as negative. Write down what they say and look at the actual words. Now is the time to be honest with yourself. Those words are a reflection of what is inside you. They are who you are. The great thing is that you can change. It is as simple as making a choice to do so. You must decide to replace the thoughts of negativity with thoughts of positivity. Decide what words you will change the negative words on your paper to. Once you have done this, make an effort to insert these new positive thoughts in your mind. You will begin to notice a positive change taking place in your life. Your family, friends and co-workers will all notice it as well. They may not know what is different about you. But they will know that you are not the same person that you were.

The items which are causing negativity in your life could very well be the news, movies, constantly replaying tragedy in your mind and the list could go on. These things should be eliminated if you want your new mental health regimen to be a success. The news is very negative and does not help someone who is trying to rid their mind of such thoughts. When you are feeding yourself thoughts of death from a war or gunshot or car accident visually the outcome will be negative. I do believe there is a time to grieve over the death of a loved one. However, if a person constantly replays this negative event in their minds it can lead to depression. The person who has passed away is not coming back and we must close that chapter in our lives and move on to the next chapter. This is a difficult task which can only be done by making a decision to proceed with our own life, no matter how hard this may be.

You can do it. You can and will have a positive attitude, if you simply take the steps outlined above. You do not have to be what you were in the past. You can be different in the future. The choice is yours. I know you will make a positive one.


Effective Goal Setting

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Goal setting is a powerful tool in leading whatever endeavor into its reaching its final and full potential.

But goal setting should effective enough than when this goal reaches its fulfillment, the goal itself becomes the fruit.

With the advent of the fever created by a book by Dan Brown, stories suddenly became the focal point of everything. Everything started in a story, they say. When God created the world; it is a story. The other side of this, i.e., evolution, is also a story. Jesus’ mission is also a story. And His supposed relationship with Mary Magdalene is a story in itself.

But in all of these, there is a singular tie that binds all of these elements. What is the goal of the Creator in creating the world? Is it a finished or an on-going goal? What was the original goal of Charles Darwin in setting forth the evolution theory? And Dan Brown, setting aside his writing talents, what was his real goal in coming out with such a book?

Everything else being equal, an effective goal setting strategy will spell the difference.

But how to do it?

1. Be clear. If you want a clear and tangible result, then set a clear and tangible goal. When people around you are sometimes confused of what you’re up to, what makes you think that what you really want is clear to you, even without a clear goal. Your whole being, all of your senses, should be one in achieving your goal.

2. Be positive. Goals, right from the start, should be positive. It’s common to see “tips” in almost everything to be set in two folds: the do’s, and the don’ts. You wont need the don’ts. It will only confuse your goal and is in violation of the first principle.

3. Prioritize. If you’re up to something bigger, and even a simple one, chances are that you must come up with a list of several goals. But be aware that multiple goal setting sometimes doesn’t work. You should have priorities. Put at the top of your list very few goals that are doable at the moment.

4. Classify your goals. Most probably, you really have one goal. But since you’re only one of the more than six billion souls inhabiting this planet, you will need to have several goals to help you achieve your ultimate goal. Thus, you will need to classify these several goals into (a) goals that will lead directly to the final goal, and (b) goals that will help in beating the odds that prevent you from realizing your final goal. Concentrate on the first type of classification.

5. Be positive. Believe in your goal. It is common to hear people saying keep your goal to an achievable level. Start with small things. Don’t harbor goals that are too big. But hey, this will limit your creativity right from the start. It’s true that you must have a list of your goals but it doesn’t mean that this couldn’t be changed. Even the U.S. Constitution has its amendments.

On this note, its good to touch on a little of this much abused set-realistic-goals mantra. If you would concentrate on this, you would soon realize that your goal is undoable because you’re bound to come across with a person with goals that contradicts your goal. When this happens, you only need to go back to your master list, what was the final goal? Then re-arrange the smaller goals that were supposed to lead you to the ultimate goal. Goal setting is more effective in this way.

It is true that goals that are too high need an equally huge investment in your part, but this is nevertheless doable. What you need actually is a little bit of rearrangement among your smaller goals.


Time Management and Goal Setting

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There are practically two types of people on the workplace. The first type of corporate workers would be those who always find sufficient and ample time to easily do things that should be done.The second type of workers would be those who are always cramming to complete tasks or work things out at the last minute.

A thorough analysis of the situations of the two types of workers would certainly lead you to the idea that the two differ from each other through their time management practices.

As such, time management is very important, especially to people in the workplace who are always bombarded by heavy work loads and different tasks. Each person for sure has his or her own other life aspects like social, life, sex life, family life and spiritual life. Each individual has his or her own set of priorities.

That is why effective time management would really be necessary so people would easily and effectively meet targets and beat deadlines with greater ease.

But it is to be noted that efficient and effective time management would
have to entail a greater skill, that is, effective goal setting.

Goal setting and time management

Goal setting and time management are two different concepts, but they are practically inter-related and inter-twined.

Time management would not be effective and achievable without goal setting.

Goal setting, for its part, needs effective time management skills for it to be successfully achieved.

Remember, when managing your time, the first thing you should attend to would be assessing or setting out your list of priorities. Doing so would enable you to carry out tasks that need to be carried out first than the others.

It would be impossible for anyone to set priorities without first setting goals. Priorities are things that should be given primary and foremost focus and attention. The same goes for goals.

Priorities and goals are almost the same in a way that both are the ultimate targets and aims of each individual.

Some useful tips to set goals and manage time:

Here are several simple, logical and practical tips and guidelines to help you set goals and eventually manage your time better.

ï Set specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timely goals. Remember the acronym SMART to simplify and unify all these. By doing so, bear in mind always your goals and arrange your schedule in a way that the achievement of these goals would be attained.

ï Determine the things or activities that need to be done or carried out in order to attain priorities and goals. By doing so, you would inevitably consider and think about the time frame needed to perform the tasks.

ï When arranging your schedule, make sure that the set of activities related to attaining the goals would not conflict with any other important appointments or activities. Make a time table so no deadlines, appointments or important dates would be forgotten or missed out. That could be a great start up to effective time management.

ï Assess yourself during goal setting. Humbly and honestly determine your skills, talents, competency and capacity to carry out your desired outcome or goals. Doing so would enable you to estimate the time it would take for you to attain and achieve your goals.

Overall, make sure you focus on your goals and ensure that you always remember the tasks that need to be done and completed on time, so the goals would be achieved also on time.


Turn Your Hobby Into A Profitable Business

If you’re passionate about computers, know the ins and outs of fashion, or handle the camera like a pro, you may be on your way to making a living out of your favorite pastime. Turning your hobby into a profitable business may not be fast and easy, but being able to work on what you enjoy the most is extremely rewarding. Here are a few tips to help you make some cash out of your hobby.

1. Assess your skills: As a hobbyist, you are passionate and excited about your subject of interest. You try to learn as much as you can, and keep up with the latest trends and developments on your hobby. This is a great place to start, but do you really have what it takes to become a professional? Are you committed and detail-oriented? Do you have the technical knowledge required to deal with complicated situations? What about your management and communication skills? There’s much more to running a business than merely enjoying what you do, so you need to be sure that you are up for the task.

2. Research the Market: Before even starting to lay out your business plan, you need to know whether the products or services you are offering are in demand. For example, if you are a butterfly collector, you may have a hard time finding a market –and, therefore, customers– willing to pay for your skills. No customers means no income, which will inevitably lead to an unsuccessful business. Now, you don’t want to invest time, effort, and money on a venture that is doomed to fail right from the start.

3. Set Goals: It’s not entirely impossible for you to just start marketing your skills and see where that takes you, but a clear understanding of what you are trying to achieve will make it easier for you to track your progress. Turning your hobby into a full-time job requires a different, more aggressive approach than trying to make a few extra bucks on your spare time. Determine the amount of time you are willing to work and the income you expect to earn.

4. Deal with paperwork: Doing business is not just about advertising and making money; it also involves registering with the IRS, filing taxes, and other tedious tasks. Should you choose to ignore these tasks, you may find yourself in legal trouble. If you find it hard to deal with this aspect of your business, you can always hire an accountant to do it for you.

5. Start Advertising: When you start a business from scratch, the hardest part is to get potential customers to know you, and trust you. Your family and friends probably already know how passionate you are about your hobby, so let them know that you are going pro. They might be able to refer you to a few of their acquaintances. Social networks are also great places to advertise your business, but make sure you use them wisely. Instead of advertising your business in your regular account, create a new page that will look more professional and attractive. You can also print business cards to hand out whenever you meet new people.

Turning your hobby into a successful business may take some time and effort, but being able to work on what you enjoy the most is highly rewarding. Don’t be disappointed if you don’t see immediate results. Take things slow, make good choices, and you will be on your way to creating your own profitable business.


Six Major Characteristics of Successful Men

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Successful men are not born that way; they train themselves to be successful. There are particular characteristics they develop that make them victorious in life, many of which they purposefully build on. Knowing what these characteristics are will give you a starting point should you try to follow their example.

Perseverance
Men who are successful persist in their endeavors to thrive. They don’t sit on their laurels and wait for opportunities to come their way; they forge ahead and work hard. Even when the world seems to be against them, they insist that their dreams are worthwhile and they follow them.

Learning
Successful men are like efficient voice recognition software; they learn from their mistakes and refine their skills. They see failures as opportunities to learn and expand their knowledge. The more often they fail, the more successful they eventually become.

Role-play
Before they become successful, they act as though they have already made it. They do their best to surround themselves with other people who are successful, and they behave like them. Successful men know that they need to project the right image and carry themselves well. They walk the walk and talk the talk.

Work ethic
Very few men are successful without the right work ethic. Most put a massive amount of man-hours into each day. Sometimes they work late into the evening, and even when they aren’t working, they constantly have their eye on the ball. Their next business deal ruminates in their head as they fall asleep, and they include useful contacts in their party guest lists.

Financial order
To be successful, men who reach the top keep their finances in order. They know exactly how much money they are making, where it’s coming from and what their budget is. They also plan their finances and work towards goals.

Information storage
Successful men make notes and file information. They remember names and know which useful contacts to pull out of the hat at the right time. In addition, they observe their competitors and recognize strategies successful people who work in their sector use and which fail.

If you want to be a successful man, adopt the six major characteristics of the successful men who have gone before you. Persevere, welcome challenges and learn from other successful people. Additionally, work hard, keep your finances in order and store information that will come to your aid in the future. Being successful may take time, but remember that half the fun of being a success is the work it takes to get there.